No I don't pay for readings and I'm sure that most mediums are not real (notice I said most cuz im still not sure about all). It's free so why not. I think it's ok to repeat what she said here if I dknt name her. Said this is a special month --it is, my birthday She saw classic cars that he either owned or worked on- he and my son love classic cars go to car shows and they restored an old Camaro together. Said I've been questioning how I'm gonna go on and how I feel alone- true, but I know this one is common but she doesn't know he coulda been gone a long time. I asked if he was mad at me. She said no that I was very upset or angry (true) and he was mad at me in life but not anymore and that he knew he was a very stubborn guy. Makes perfect sense and I don't think is something could apply to everyone. Lastly said it's important that I know he standing up straight now. Also true. Everything she said in short time made perfect sense or am I being delusional.
No I don't pay for readings and I'm sure that most mediums are not real (notice I said most cuz im still not sure about all). It's free so why not.
Even though it is free, you are still feeding an addiction here. This is not healthy Debbie.
I think it's ok to repeat what she said here if I dknt name her.
If you are gonna go down this route, then not only should you name her, you should record the reading and publish it so i can expose it for the fraud it is.
Said this is a special month --it is, my birthday
It could also be the birthmonth, death-month, anniversary month, etc etc of anyone alive or living that has been close to you. That is basically an endless amount of things you could assign that would be classed as "special"
She saw classic cars that he either owned or worked on
Which was it? Why so vague? Many older men like classic cars, younger men do too. We have a classic car show a couple of miles from me every year, I go every year as does thousands of other men. Then you ask what is classified as a classic car?
he and my son love classic cars go to car shows and they restored an old Camaro together.
SO the psychic made the vague comment about classic cars, and now you as the client has made a connection involving your son and his father. You are making the connection here NOT the psychic.
Said I've been questioning how I'm gonna go on and how I feel alone- true
As does 100% of people who have lost someone close to them
but I know this one is common but she doesn't know he could a been gone a long time.
The very fact you are having a psychic reading gives away the fact you are not coping well with the loss of a loved one, if you were, you wouldn't go to a psychic would you.
I asked if he was mad at me. She said no that I was very upset or angry (true) and he was mad at me in life but not anymore and that he knew he was a very stubborn guy.
So here you have asked a question and in doing so given the psychic all manner of info on you and your relationship with your passed husband. Lets say the afterlife is real, why when someone crosses over are they suddenly all flowers and niceties? Why do people lose everything that made them who they were in life? I will tell you why, because psychics tell you what you want to hear!
Makes perfect sense and I don't think is something could apply to everyone.
Yes it would apply to everyone who said what you did to the psychic, you gave them the fish without them ever having to put the line in the water. They then told you what you wanted to hear to make you feel better.
Lastly said it's important that I know he standing up straight now. Also true.
I dont know a single person over 60 who has perfect posture. In fact the amount of older people with back issues is incredibly high! And if we are to believe there is an afterlife, if we live as energy, why would we need to do something as human and physical as standing up anyway? These are physical descriptions which dont match the bulls*it these psychics spout about an afterlife!!
Everything she said in short time made perfect sense or am I being delusional.
She fed your addiction, told you things she knew would make you feel better, and kept things vague enough that you would be left to make all the connections.
In fact if I had had the exact same reading and put it down to being my dead Grandfather, I could take 100% of it as applying to me. He was born in May, he had an old Morris Minor in Cyprus which he loved and worked on a lot, just after he died I felt very alone as i was very close to him. And he also had a hunched back from years of hard labour working in fields and so on.
And amazingly he was quite stubborn in life too, as most elderly Cypriot men are.
Sorry this reading was cold reading. At least you never paid for it, but I can see you are still addicted to these people.
A bad ass who will beat you like he's using the fists of god.
Well I am 60 and I stand perfectly straight with no back or knee issues! Lol I do know what you're saying and I guess too that I know it's not healthy for me to be doing this. It's very VERY hard to accept someone is really gone and will never see or talk to them again. There's where the addiction starts and intellectually I know that but I really do want to believe very badly.
Not meaning to argue with you here, I've done a ton of reading on this site and know how you feel about all of this. I also think you do a great service to people exposing frauds and trying to save people money and heartache. That said, I thought everything she said was right on. She could have listed many months that are meaningless to me. Also the classic cars, I mean she did say work on or own and while u say it applies to many, in my world it doesn't. I don't think that's a generalized statement. If she had said he carries a briefcase everyday or Loves to go hunting I would know she full of it. She commented that I've been saying lately how am I gonna go on I'm going to be alone , again exactly what I've been saying to him. I don't believe I'll be saying that in 4/5 years from now (at least I hope not) and she had no way of knowing how long he's gone (2 months) ive heard many ppl have readings looking for people who are gone 10-20 years. I did ask if he was mad at me but that could have meant many things. She did say I was upset or angry and he knew he was very stubborn. He could have been mad at me for a lot Of things but she hit it on the head. Just another perspective. Yes I'm heartbroken but I'm also not stupid. I honestly don't go reaching for things to fit they just did.
Well I am 60 and I stand perfectly straight with no back or knee issues! Lol
You are doing better than me, and I am more than 20 years younger! lol I do however believe that men traditionally suffer more than women with their backs in older age, due to the traditionally more labour intensive jobs men hold.
I do know what you're saying and I guess too that I know it's not healthy for me to be doing this. It's very VERY hard to accept someone is really gone and will never see or talk to them again. There's where the addiction starts and intellectually I know that but I really do want to believe very badly.
But like I have said many times, no one truly goes as long as you can remember them, their DNA will live on through family. Their moments in life recorded in history in photos and videos.
And you can talk to them in your head, or out loud, whatever makes you feel better.
A bad ass who will beat you like he's using the fists of god.
Not meaning to argue with you here, I've done a ton of reading on this site and know how you feel about all of this. I also think you do a great service to people exposing frauds and trying to save people money and heartache.
Thanks, and you can argue with me as much as you like, I never take offence, so dont worry.
That said, I thought everything she said was right on.
Everything she said was right on for me though too. That is the point, mediums say things that sound specific but actually can refer to many many people.
She could have listed many months that are meaningless to me.
But all she did is randomly mention a month, she never in any way said why it was important, just a random month. And if she had said a month that meant nothing to you, if you thought about it longer enough you would have found a connection I am sure.
Also the classic cars, I mean she did say work on or own and while u say it applies to many, in my world it doesn't.
I'd like to be able to hear exactly what she said and how she said it. But i'll repeat many people like classic cars, and again it depends how you catagorise a classic car, what is a classic car to one person is not to someone else.
I don't think that's a generalized statement. If she had said he carries a briefcase everyday or Loves to go hunting I would know she full of it.
That would actually have been more specific! And less vague! I dont know anyone who goes hunting for live prey, not a single person alive today.
She commented that I've been saying lately how am I gonna go on I'm going to be alone , again exactly what I've been saying to him.
But you are a recent widow, everyone feels alone, that is why they go to see a medium.
I don't believe I'll be saying that in 4/5 years from now (at least I hope not) and she had no way of knowing how long he's gone (2 months) ive heard many ppl have readings looking for people who are gone 10-20 years.
If you keep seeing mediums, then I guarantee you you will still be having the same feelings in 5 years, or even 20 years. I have seen that first hand, that is why the addiction is so strong.
I would however say that most people see a medium soon after someone has died. And if I see a women with emotion in her eyes, tears building and so on, a woman your age, I would guess your husband had passed, This is what the medium has done, they have read your body language and microexpressions. And you have given them everything they need to cold read you.
I did ask if he was mad at me but that could have meant many things. She did say I was upset or angry and he knew he was very stubborn. He could have been mad at me for a lot Of things but she hit it on the head. Just another perspective. Yes I'm heartbroken but I'm also not stupid. I honestly don't go reaching for things to fit they just did.
Yes but you asked her! You gave her the in, you gave her the info to expand on, she NEVER EVER told you that he was angry when alive, you gave her that info, she just twisted it, expanded on it, and told you a nice reply to make you feel better.
I think you did reach for things to fit, and this medium manipulated someone clearly grieving and very vunerable, this is what they do.
Look, if it made you feel better, then great, take that and thats that, but please no more mediums, they are creating the addiction in you and you are going down a dangerous route.
A bad ass who will beat you like he's using the fists of god.
Post by The Legendary Barb on May 7, 2016 12:59:21 GMT
Hi Debbie, please if you are able to, take Jon' advice.
All that was told to you also could apply to my late hubby. He too liked old cars we had had a few over the years. He was in the army during WW11 and was in REME, he could and often did stripe down engines for himself and others. Worked on the bodywork and he could also de-coke any make of car. He could also be a very grumpy ole git when he wanted to be. See how similar our hubbies where. Oh and our son would pass him the tools he asked for, sound familiar.
your never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream[C.S Lewis]
Hi Debbie, please if you are able to, take Jon' advice.
All that was told to you also could apply to my late hubby. He too liked old cars we had had a few over the years. He was in the army during WW11 and was in REME, he could and often did stripe down engines for himself and others. Worked on the bodywork and he could also de-coke any make of car. He could also be a very grumpy ole git when he wanted to be. See how similar our hubbies where. Oh and our son would pass him the tools he asked for, sound familiar.
I can understand how it might be hard for some people in the generation above me to just take my advice, afterall I know sometimes I can come across patronising, so I do appreciate it Barb when you as someone who has been through a lot, can also give an opinion on things, as it kinda holds more weight than my opinion with regards to the generation that you both are from.
It also means that we can look at similarities as well as generalities that psychics use.
You have been through exactly what Debbie is going through now, and come out the other side stronger.
A bad ass who will beat you like he's using the fists of god.
Post by The Legendary Barb on May 7, 2016 21:10:48 GMT
Thank you Jon, I do hope Debbie will soon feel stronger and able to cope. We never get over the loss of a dearly loved one, but with help and understanding we learn how to cope and live with our loss.
your never too old to set a new goal or dream a new dream[C.S Lewis]
Thank you both. I still feel like I can find that one phychic that will give me definitive proof that he is still out there somewhere and ok. I guess that's all part of why these mediums can prey on people, not because they're stupid but just vulnerable, grieving and desperate. I am trying though which is why I keep coming back to this site. Kinda like a jolt of reality.
Debbie, I don't want this to come across as harsh as that's the last thing I'd ever be but if your beloved husband was able to speak to anybody don't you think he would choose to speak to you directly, rather than through a stranger? Especially those who may charge you for the privilege?
Believe me I'd give anything to be able to communicate with loved ones who have gone, as would anybody, I imagine, but I can't. All these psychics are doing is feeding off vulnerability and being paid a fortune to do it, which is no better in my opinion than the people who send scam emails to people and fleece them out of their life savings. There's no difference; it's just a different con.
I know you're hurting and we all understand but please don't let yourself be drawn in to a cycle of endless psychic visits as like Jon says, all this does is prolong your grieving and feed you false hope, which is quite cruel. The psychics aren't letting you heal or deal with your loss; it's quite the opposite, they're encouraging you to stay in it so that they gain.
I hope each day gets a little easier for you but it will take time.
"No passion in the world is equal to the passion to alter someone else's draft." H G Wells
Thank you both. I still feel like I can find that one phychic that will give me definitive proof that he is still out there somewhere and ok. I guess that's all part of why these mediums can prey on people, not because they're stupid but just vulnerable, grieving and desperate. I am trying though which is why I keep coming back to this site. Kinda like a jolt of reality.
Also know you are more than welcome here, and are part of the forum family now. You dont need to just talk about psychic stuff either, we have lots of sections on the forum, and sometimes its good to just chat nonsense to pass the time and take your mind off of things too.
A bad ass who will beat you like he's using the fists of god.
